What is considered a good gift? Could a bad gift become a good one in time to come?

How would you respond if someone told you that grief could be a good gift? “Are you crazy? “That was my first thought when I came across the video which challenge my thought that grief was a bad gift passed to me. I constantly threw it away initially. After watching the video, I was intrigued and began searching for the benefits instead.

Grief made me more resilient.

I recalled that I tried to snatch the ‘steering wheel’ from the Grief ‘monster’ (M) and drove the ‘bus’ ( symbol of my healing journey) for many weeks. I failed terribly and felt so tired. I tried all methods and also set a timeline to reach my goal of restoring my mental health to optimum level. But everything was out of control. My fear towards M changed to anger. How dare it hijacked and drove my ‘bus’. It’s through surrendering that I am able to get to victory step by step. I finally reached the ‘driver’s’ seat and was empowered.

That video resonates with me because I’m curious and seek new ways to move forward whenever I felt stuck. Understanding what motivates you is key to making progress in the healing journey. I believe health (both physical and mental) is the greatest wealth. That belief has been my driving force, lifting me up whenever I fell down.

Andelina 2.0 is almost 7 years old. My dad passed away a year after my mother. I’m very glad that I retained the sense of humour which I inherited from my late dad despite the chaos.

For the one who’s grieving:

• Find and listen to your inner compass to find the motivation to get to better ground.

• Own and Move towards your healing! Though it may not look like you are in control at the start.

• Change your perspective to make progress.

How to support the one’s who’s grieving:

It’s futile to tell someone to get over the grief soon. They just can’t control themselves especially at the initial stage. It’s not that they are unwilling to do. I can't say that annoying M is gone. It’s far away now and only ‘visits’ mostly during festive period.

Resource:https://brainmd.com/blog/benefits-of grieving/?srsltid=AfmBOoqE8A0C6qLJ8NMOWsvXzR gQ_2opVTp_cdZcooEgc0QnQCpae1M

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